Sunday, January 9, 2011

Vulnerability and Worthiness in Our Relationships

View this great 20 min talk about vulnerability on T.E.D. Bren Brown's research is compelling and easy to understand. I think it will touch a place in you and perhaps shed some light on your relationships.

On the topic of horses and vulnerability. I don't think that horses have worthiness issues the way we experience them, but I do think their start in life and how each individual horse handles his "break in belonging" creates part of the foundational personality that we work with.

How did your horses' start in life happen? Were his first weeks and months complicated? What about his weaning, handling or mishandling? I think all of these factors play a role in our horse's confidence and how readily he adjusts and adapts to the constantly changing circumstances he may face throughout his life.

Other than the daily routine of feeding etc, while horses likely don't think and ponder on our human concepts, their whole world revolves around their instinct to survive. Survival is all about managing vulnerability.

How can we apply what Bren is saying to our relationship with the animals and especially the horses in our lives who we expect so much from. Are we listening to their communication and cues about what concerns them or makes them feel insecure? Are we pushing to hard to fast just in general with everything we do? What would happen if we took the time, slowed down and took a more empathetic view point and compassionate approach in how we viewed, resistance, refusal, anger etc? ... and of course with our human counterparts as well.

Remember to "Put the Heart Before the Course™"

Thanks for Reading

Brene' Brown: The power of vulnerability

Friday, December 31, 2010

The Day Before The New Year 2011

It has come!  Not just the blizzard, but the day before the calendar year turns to 2011.  What have I learned about the nature of things?  I have learned that I don't get what I don't ask for or focus on.  That goes both ways.  I also tend to get what I am focused on consciously or unconsciously. Did I scramble your brain?   Try this,  I'm not mindful about what I am focusing on, then that is what shows up-exactly what I did not want.  For the most part I have been very, very focused on my work with horses and people.  I have created amazing opportunity's to work with mentors and teachers and be able to give that knowledge back to my students and clients.
2010, year in review boasts major accomplishments and lifetime opportunities or me.  One of my most profound so far was working with Pioneer horsewoman Carolyn Resnick, with my horse at her ranch this summer as her working student.  It gave me not only a more affirming and profound way to work with horses, but it also gave me the vital focused time to work with my horses Sebastian daily while I was there. (Sebastian is my 17. 2 hand Percheron/ Thoroughbred horse) .  What a pleasure to reinvent our relationship through Carolyn's method.)

As 2010 draws to a close I bid it farewell.  I am grateful for my dear husband Chris,  and all of my supportive family, clients and friends who support me in the work I do.
I forgive anyone who has wronged me and I ask or forgiveness from anyone I have wronged in any way.  I rest now and repose as Iget ready for 2011 which will be my best year yet.  How do I know that it will be?  …Because I am focused, attuned and asking for that. That’s why.   Namaste and Thanks for reading.  Respectfully, Lila